There is a reason why it is called one of the most complicated forces in the world.
Too many times, we don’t really end up with our ‘one and only’. I’d be a liar if I say that it doesn’t hurt. Love hurts and there is no other way to put it. We all need to undergo a few failed relationships before cracking the code. We all get consoled by our family and friends after a breakup. They usually come up with plenty of reasons to make us feel better.
* It was just not meant to be.
* You were just too good for him/her!
These are the things that we mostly hear after our breakups. Truth to be told, our loved ones always sugarcoat it. Sometimes, our relationships don’t work out because we sabotage it ourselves. Here are some brutally honest reasons why it could have never worked out between the two of you.
* You were being way too needy in your relationship
You were throwing tantrums and always wanted an assurance from your partner. Your need of getting attention might have just pushed your significant other away.
* You gave up way too easily
It’s not worth it if it doesn’t deserve a fight. If you love someone, then go out there and fight for it. Nothing good can happen to you while staying in your comfort zone.
* Either one of you had abandonment issues
It becomes quite tough to deal with someone having abandonment issues. Instead of getting a closure, they just end a healthy relationship. They leave. They always do – because no one ever told them that staying can be an option too.
* You were not able to let go of your past
Whenever we are not able to let go of our past, we end up sabotaging our relationship in the end. Instead of starting afresh, we try to replace someone else, which always ends terribly.
* You both wanted two different things in life
Sometimes, we don’t really talk about all those important things before rushing into a relationship. People have different priorities and life goals. Just because you love someone, doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your whole life for them.
* You were really mean to yourself
As complicated as it might sound, sometimes we become our greatest enemy. We sabotage ourselves and can’t stay happy for a while. Sometimes, no one can be crueler to you than yourself.
* You had a relationship checklist
You are not going out there to shop groceries. People come in packages and you can’t just customize them like things.
* Trust issues
Trust and honesty form the foundation of any relationship. If you can’t trust your partner, then having a lasting relationship with them is a long shot.
* You were way too controlling
Being a control freak never really works. Not only does it push your partner away, it can even frustrate your friends and family.
* You had a passive approach to your relationship
Too many times, we just ‘go with the flow’ in love. Try to remind yourself next time, that only dead fishes go with the flow
* You were extremely argumentative
No one likes to be with a guy or girl who likes to argue on every single thing. It is really as simple as that!
* Social media and peer pressure killed your relationship
I can say this from a personal experience. There are times when we get influenced by the projection of a ‘happy’ life of our friends on social media. We try to follow their lead and in that process, we somehow just break each other.
* The two of you were not ready to change
If you can’t grow together, then you would only grow apart. Your relationship could have started well, but it can’t sustain if the two of you are not ready to change with time.
* Your relationship drastically changed you
And not for the good. Sometimes, we just wake up and realize that our entire world has been crumbled right in front of our eyes. Our whole life can change in a moment and with it, our priorities are also drastically altered.
* Because you have always been a free spirit
And you just can’t be tamed. Not everyone is supposed to have a steady relationship, and it is completely fine. You can be happy on your own. It is a path that only you can take. Avoid getting caught up in between to minimize collateral damage.
Now when you know better, you can work on your flaws. Walk an extra mile for the one you love and try to make it work this time. Remember, unlike things people can’t be replaced.
There are a few people in this world that are worth holding on to!